Respect is much more than just talking
Respect Respect, especially in the Army is a very important value to live by. It is much more than just talking kindly and listening to someone. It is the process of taking into consideration someone’s emotions, feelings and needs. You must also focus on their ideas, thoughts, and preferences. It is showing someone that you value their time; that you care what they have to say. Showing someone respect allows that person to know and acknowledge that you are tracking them and that you comprehend and believe in what they are saying, It is important to allow someone to feel your respect for them.It will ease the conversation and create trust.
Behavior and attitude will allow the person demanding respect to feel that respect. When we respect each other, there are fewer conflicts. People get along easier and avoid the un-necessary drama associated with a lack of respect. For those of us in the military, this is very important. Respect is not only shown verbally, but also by one’s behaviors and actions. For example, if someone (be it a soldier or not) you respect asks you to do something—you should show him or her the respect they are asking for and do what they say.
Don’t argue, just do it.In the Army this often comes into play on a daily basis. If someone you respect asks you to do something, you should do it immediately and without hesitation. You should do it quickly. For instance, if someone asks you to go knock out twenty-five pushups, mountain-climbers, dips, pull-ups, crab walks, bear crawls, or another exercise, you should immediately show them the respect and do it. Do it fast and do not complain.
Do not question them, do not ask for further explanation, and do not do anything other then what they ask. That might give them the impression that you do not respect them.If you perform the duty they ask, It will help show them you respect them and their word or authority. When someone has the feeling that you are respecting him or her, than they will behave accordingly. If someone gets the impression that you are not respecting what they have to say, they will also act accordingly—and sometimes that comes with negative consequences. The concept of respect is not a new one.
It has been around for thousands of years, from ancient tribes to the kings of Europe. Back many thousand years ago people who were not respected could easily die.If a group of hunters and gathers were out wandering around and thought that someone was not contributing and respecting the group, that person could easily be left behind to die. They would consider this person to have no worth or value—when in those kind of situations your life depends on this. There would be no need for this person to be around to bring the rest of the group down. If they can’t contribute and respect the others, they are a waste of space. That is why respect is so important.
One individual could bring the whole group down.One person disrespecting an NCO or an Officer could get a whole group of squared away people smoked. Stuff like that is unacceptable. Today this concept is somewhat different. A trust fund baby might inherit a super large amount of money—say 100 million dollars. They can hire a large group of staff: maids, butlers, assistants, etc. The trust fund baby might treat these assistants like lower-class inferior people.
He might give them attitude and treat them inhumanely. The workers might not respect their boss in the slightest degree, but the boss will continue to survive due to his fortune.They will have to continue to work and show him respect in order to survive themselves, though in reality they do not respect him. It is comical in a way because this trust fund baby may not have ever been respected; yet now with all of the money he feels that he commands this respect. This is an example of how people can succeed and command respect without earning it. In reality, respect needs to be earned.
There are many different ways to earn someone’s respect. They best way, in my opinion, is to voluntarily do the things the person commanding the respect is asking—whether you agree or not, whether you like or not.Do what they ask and do it well. Treat them kindly and use proper language. You still must take into consideration the person’s emotions, needs, preferences, thoughts, and ideas.
Do what they say and do it quickly. Do not ask questions, do not smart off, and do not do anything to jeopardize your own self in regards to the situation. It is important to complete the job task and complete it well the first time. Show the person you respect them. Get it done, and get it down the right way, the first time. This is how you show respect.
This is how you earn respect. Respect is very important both in the military and in the civilian world.In most cases, people can easily tell when someone respects them or not. Once they feel that they are being respected, they can instill more trust into a person, respect them back, and take what the person says to heart. They can put faith into that person. Once we earn someone’s respect, it is much easier to gain his or her cooperation. It is much easier to have them support us and take our sides.
We don’t have to put as much effort in to getting them to listen to an order or doing what they are told. Respect must be EARNED. You must provide someone with your respect before they show you the same respect.This is what I mean by earning it.
I do not believe that respect can be demanded or forced. Demanding someone’s respect will most likely lead to some type of conflict. Respect definitely needs to be earned in order to avoid this potentially harmful conflict.
Looking back at the trust fund baby example, yes he or she commands respect—but they might not necessarily get it. There are many different types of ways to show and earn someone’s respect. You must take into consideration their feelings. You must sympathize and empathize with them. You must be loyal and responsible. You must be intent and focused.It is also important to understand the emotional aspects of showing and earning respect.
You need to understand one’s feelings. You need to talk to them and ask them how they are feeling. Be around for them in their times of need. In my opinion it is important to have very solid communication when it comes to earning and giving respect.
Each person must be able to understand their own feelings, as well as the feelings of the party they respect. They have to be able to show these feelings in the proper way. They must be a good listener and not reach quick judgments or conclusions.People have to also believe the concept that feelings have value. They must know that feelings matter. Support others feelings and earn their respect by showing you care. Many people are much more emotional than others, therefore every single individual must take into consideration the differences between one human being to the next human being.
Nearly anything will earn you respect in the eyes of other people, though it is very circumstantial. On the contrary, only certain things will earn you respect in the eyes of those who are well respected themselves. The way to arn respect is to be respectful. It is literally that simple. Treat other soldiers as you want to be treated. If a higher-ranking soldier is talking to you, you stand in the correct body position—parade rest or attention–and you listen to what they have to say.
Make respect an overall attitude. It is not simply a thing given to a person after they have proven themselves but rather it is earned. Respect is something that many people would do many things to have. Some would die for it (i. e.
Samurai warriors back in ancient Japan—they would take their own lives before the enemies took their lives).Some would endure endless pain and suffering if they thought others would respect them for it; think people being tortured rather than divulge top-secret information. This often holds true here in the military. During our ‘smoke’ sessions, we often see others outperform each other and make a competition out of it, just to earn respect. People see who can last the longest, who can take the most pressure. Gangs and cults are the same way.
They go through pain in order to look tough and earn respect. They even jump each other into the gangs.This means they get beat up by numerous people just to prove their toughness. To me, this is ridiculous. If someone cannot respect you for whom you are, than they are not worth the time and effort of earning their respect. I understand that you must prove yourself, but there are easier ways of doing so.
In the case of many of us military personnel, there is a mix of importance placed on respect. Some people, like myself, depend only on freely given respect that is acquired through normal acts within your general range of behavior, rather than going out of ones way to impress or earn the respect of someone.Sometimes this is misunderstood as not caring what others think of you. That isn’t always true because in the back of ones mind, people always care how other people feel. Personally, I would rather just prove myself than become a kiss-ass. For instance, I pride myself on the fact that I work hard and get the job done the proper way. I would rather have other’s notice, comment on it, and earn their respect then be some bastard brown-noser trying to sucker someone into giving them respect.
It makes much more sense to earn it, especially in a job like ours (11 bravo).I like being a leader and earning respect. I like when I hear from NCOs and Officers that my leadership skills are good and earning their respect Personally, to me, respect means that you listen to someone’s ideas, follow rules that have been established, help someone who needs it (or ask them if they need help). This can be as simple as holding a door at a shopping center for someone. If I was at the PX and an older woman was on her way in or out, I would show her the proper respect and hold the door for her.
It is literally that simple, too easy right? This is an example of respect through actions.The action was holding the door open, and hopefully her respect was earned from such a simple gesture. She appreciated the fact that someone helped her out. Most people respect people who go out of their way, even for something so small, to help someone. I cannot stand when I see this fail to happen.
To respect someone is not to assume that they are invincible, because that is idol worship. Respect can be something like being their friend if they need it. It can be something like being able to put petty disagreements in the past and follow their wishes or in our case, commands.Different kinds of respect hold different importance to me. True respect, is like true love: it is unconditional.
Just like love can never be taken away, well in most cases, respect for a person is always there once established. You can lose someone’s respect, but something pretty extreme must happen (like cheating on a girlfriend or vice versa). Often times it can be earned back.
Trust can be demolished, so can hate, and anger and envy and all other bad or good things in this world, except for love and respect.That may be hard to grasp, because usually respect and trust go hand in hand, and I’ve already said that trust can be demolished. However Respect is different than trust. Respect is not just to a person; it can be just something in general, like a concept. Respect is often times compared to an attitude. It supersedes the person, and gives way to the total. Having a piss-poor attitude can take all focus off respect.
Respect is really one thing that I admire in the world and in people. People tend to admire things that they want. We all should technically want respect.For example, if you want to be a good leader you will respect your NCO’s and Officers.
By showing them respect, you can prove that you are squared way and that you want to be doing your job and be the best you can be at your job. What we respect is a clue to what we want in life. I respect leaders because I want to be a leader someday. Treat the higher ranks with respect is a concept I firmly believe in. I will be a higher rank someday and I expect to earn others respect when I get to that point.
You truly need to show respect for things that you want. Respecting good things will bring more good into your ife. It is a simple concept to live your life by. Respect truly has a very great importance on everyday life.
This concept is usually instilled into ones head at a young age. One of the very first things that popped into my mind was sharing toys. I resented this because I thought my brothers were going to break them. I learned to trust them and respect the fact that most accidents occur unintentionally; when we’re older, we may overlook the lack of respect the first and maybe even second times, but eventually it gets old. I now respect the fact that I was kind enough to share with them.Even though I was young, I gave them a chance. Hopefully they respect me for that.
Often we may learn that jobs and relationships become unbearable if we receive no respect in them; the thing with the army is you have to earn your respect. You have to be tough, and you have to be able to overlook the lack of respect and just do your job (and do it well). Calls to respect ‘this or that’ are increasingly part of military life. We may learn both that our lives simply flow better when we respect the things that deserve to be respected.
It makes it that much easier on us, as well at the person commanding respect.If you backtalk an NCO or Officer, what do you think is going to happen? Punishment. It is that simple—don’t talk back and you will be fine. We may also learn that how our lives go depends every bit as much on whether we respect ourselves. The value of self-respect may be something we can take for granted, or we may discover how very important it is when our self-respect is threatened. There is a chance that we can lose it and have to work to regain it. There is always the possibility that we might have to struggle to develop or maintain it in a hostile place like Afghanistan or Iraq.
The last thing a soldier needs is to feel sorry for themselves, not believe in themselves, and end up dead. This places them and their battle buddies in harms way. Often time’s people find that finally being able to respect them selves is what matters most. Self-respect is clutch for guys like us in the military.
It will only help us on the battlefield where it matters. The fact that we have a plethora of resources here in the military to utilize and keep our self-respect in check is a wonderful thing. It is widely acknowledged that there are different kinds of respect.One general distinction is between respect simply as behavior and respect as an attitude or feeling. This feeling may or may not be expressed in or signified by behavior. We might speak of drivers respecting the speed limit or in our case, hostile forces as respecting a cease-fire agreement. Often times in such cases we can be referring simply to behavior, which avoids violation of or interference with some boundary, limit, or rule.
Often times this comes without any reference to attitudes, feelings, intentions, or dispositions. In other cases, we take respect to be or to express or signify an attitude or feeling.An attitude of respect is generally a relation between a subject and an object in which the subject responds to the object from a certain perspective in some appropriate way. This could be something like conversing with an officer or NCO. The creator of the respect is always a person that is a conscious rational human, or soldier, being capable of recognizing and acknowledging things. Officers and NCOs are in leadership positions for a reason.
Respect is a responsive relation. Ordinary discourse about respect identifies several key elements of the response, including attention, judgment, behavior, and valuing.It is easy for someone in a leadership position to judge how one is respecting him or her. Respect is a particular mode of apprehending the object: the person who respects something pays attention to it and perceives it differently from someone who doesn’t. For instance, privates stand at parade rest for specialists, but specialists do not do this for privates.
The idea of paying heed or giving proper attention to the soldier, which is central to respect often, means trying to see the objective clearly. This makes me think of walking around here on base.Whenever someone approaches, we must be on our toes to figure out if they are an officer and demand a salute or not.
Often times, privates might mix up the rank of a Lt. Colonel with a specialists rank. From a distance all you can see is a black blur. If the privates aren’t paying attention and do not salute, this will show disrespect to the officer, who earned his rank for a reason. Thus, respecting something contrasts with being oblivious or indifferent to it, ignoring or quickly dismissing it, neglecting or disregarding it, or carelessly or intentionally misidentifying it.
Military personnel must really take time to be careful to show respect when it is due. It is incorporated into our jobs. Respect in the military is a huge concept and falls right in with loyalty, duty, selfless-service, honesty, integrity, and personal courage.
When we respect something we acknowledge its claim to our attention. We take the time to show them the respect, to show them that they matter. Thus, one is disposed to act in obedience to the person or soldier’s demands.
Salute officers, respect NCOs, and do the right thing. It is that simple.People do not need to complicate it any further. We cannot respect a particular object for just any old reason or for no reason at all. Rather, we respect an object for the reason that it has, in our judgment, some respect-warranting characteristic. That it is, in our view, the kind of object that calls for that kind of response (like saluting officers and standing at parade rest for NCOs).
They’ve earned their rank and we must respect that. Even the E4s around here have earned their ranks and deserve our respect. Respect is generally regarded as having a behavioral component.
In respecting a person, we often consider them to be making legitimate claims on our conduct as well as our thoughts and feelings. We trust them. Thus, we are required to behave appropriately. We talk courteously and we salute. We do the right thing.
This behavior includes refraining from certain treatment of the soldier or person ad well as acting only in particular ways in connection with it. These can be ways that are regarded as fitting, deserved by, or owed to the object (i. e. saluting officers). This includes standing at parade rest for higher-ranking NCOs and even E4s, and at attention to officers.
It also includes calling people by their titles rather than just by their last names. For example to show respect to Specialist Heiar, who has earned his rank, it is important to call him ‘Specialist’ Heiar, not just “Heiar”. This is a way to show respect for the person in question. To be a form or expression of respect, behavior has to be motivated by one’s acknowledgment of the person calling for that behavior, and it has to be motivated directly by consideration that the person’s rank is what it is. This must be done regardless to one’s own interests and desires. One must follow the standard once they know it.
The attitudes of respect include beliefs, acknowledgments, judgments, deliberations, commitments, emotions, and feelings. The attitude is typically regarded as central to respect: actions and modes of treatment typically count as respect. It is very important not to have an attitude or come across as having one. That is one of the lessons that I learned today. Do as you are told, do it quickly, and do not ask questions. Take the time to fully understand the directions you were given, and complete the task. There are different forms of respect that people can command.
It can be something as simple as calling an officer ‘sir’ or ‘ma’am’. The idea of respect for people is ambiguous. You can also have high regard for a person’s excellent performance in the role or behaving in ways that express due consideration or deference to an individual holder of that position, like those that have earned their combat infantry badges. They have these badges for a reason and demand respect for being deployed in a time of war.
Similarly, the phrase “respecting someone as a person” might refer to appraising him or her as overall a morally good person.It could also mean you respect what they have gone through, like deployments. Though we are new here, we have an idea of how tough deployments can be. Until we go through all we can do is respect you all for completing yours.
You can respect people for their individual characteristics or achievements, or moral merit. In the Army it is a commonplace that soldiers are owed or have a right to equal respect. It is obvious that we could not owe every individual evaluative respect, let alone equal evaluative respect, since not everyone has accomplished the same tasks, been deployed, or is as morally straight as the next soldier.What we can do is respect everyone for being in the Army at a time of war.
We can respect them for being human beings. So, if it is true that all soldiers are owed or have a moral right to respect just as soldiers, then the concept of respect for soldiers has to be analyzed as some form or combination of forms of recognition or reverential respect. For a variety of reasons, however, it is controversial whether we do indeed have a moral obligation to respect all soldiers regardless of achievements and merit, and if so, why. There are disagreements, for example, about the scope of this claim and the grounds for respect.It seems to vary by company and battalion standards. Some companies have E4s stand at parade rest for other E4s who have CIBs, some companies treat all E4s equal. It is up to the individual soldier to figure out the standard and respect is appropriately. When looking at who or what we are obligated to respect, we are led to a question about the basis of respect: What is it about soldiers that makes them matter morally and makes them worthy of respect? One common way of answer this question is to look for some morally significant natural quality that is common to all beings that are non-controversially owed respect.For us in the military this is a little easier because we have ranks. Though I believe everyone in the military deserves respect, some draw from this the conclusion that respect is owed not to all, but only to some soldiers; others conclude that the obligation to respect all soldiers is groundless: rather than being grounded in some fact about humans, respect confers moral standing on them. Rank matters, yes I get that. I still feel that officers, be it a 2nd LT or a 4 Star General should respect all soldiers for putting their lives on the line and sacrificing what they do to serve this country. I believe that most do.What I do not like is how a 25-year veteran CSM has to salute and give respect (technically) to a brand new 2LT straight out of west point. Stuff like that bothers me, but like I said all soldiers deserve respect. When it comes to developing respect, it should be instilled early on in ones life; long before the idea of becoming a soldier even comes in to play. It is good to teach people how to treat others. I am a firm believer of ‘treat others how you want to be treated yourself’. I can’t imagine anyone wanting to be treated poorly, so why treat others poorly. Parents need to instill respect into their kids at an early age.If you start early, it will help drill into them that respect is extremely important. Respect will help get you farther in life than those who lack it. Respect is a great characteristic for one to have, especially for us soldiers in the military. Everyday discourse and practices insist that respect and self-respect are personally, socially, politically, and especially morally important. Their roles in our lives as soldiers, living in complex relations with other soldiers and surrounded by a plethora of other beings and things on which our attitudes and actions have tremendous effects, cannot be taken lightly.Even when we are overseas, we must respect the enemy. It is the moment we lose respect for their capabilities that they start taking advantage of it. The point I really wanted to make with this essay is that there are many types of respect. We must respect each other. We must respect the standards that different companies, platoons, squads, and even brigades set. We must respect the enemy. When it comes to respect it is not to be taken lightly. It can make all of the difference in the world. A cheesy but true example would be the first time you meet your girlfriend’s parents and family.If you disrespect them in the slightest way, you are already coming off on a bad note and going to be on bad terms with them. If you show them the respect that they deserve, they will like you and you will make your girlfriend happy. The point I am trying to make is that respect is universal. Be it an enemy trying to kill you or your girlfriends crazy weird parents—respect can help you get through both situations alive. I think we all know the term ‘respect your elders’, well here in the Army you need to respect EVERYONE. Many of us are older than people who outrank us.That does not give anyone the right to disrespect or mouth off to someone younger who outranks you. They have their rank for a reason. Everyone in the army EARNS his or her rank, everyone. Some just earn their rank in a different way than others. Just because of that does not make them any different rank-wise. Everyone needs to be treated with respect regardless of their situation. We are all brothers and we all need to respect that and have each other’s back. In conclusion, respect is one of the best army values to live your life by. It can get you very far in life.It is very important to let those people you respect know you respect them. I for one have nothing but respect for all of my fellow soldiers, from privates to 4 star generals. We are all participating in the fight for our great country. We are all here for the same cause. We must show each other the respect we deserve. We must listen to those who outrank us and are only trying to square us away. By showing them respect, we can achieve this. It is foolish to take things personal and not recognize that they are solely trying to square us away. Behavior and attitude are key factors in showing someone you respect them.We must have a positive attitude and proper behavior when talking to someone who commands our respect. I have seen people here roll their eyes and make faces when someone asks them to do something and I find that unacceptable. Nothing here is ‘too hard’ and that fact needs to be respected. The main idea here is that every single soldier needs to use respect when talking to and working with each other. We have a very dangerous job and respect is a key factor in staying alive and in proper training practices. We have chains of commands for a reason. The officers command respect because they’ve earned it.The NCOs command respect because they earn it. It is fully our responsibility to give them the respect they have earned. We must take care of each other and square each other way—respectfully. If one E4 asks another E4 or below to do something, the task needs to be done quickly, properly, and without hesitation. This will help show them that you respect them. Do not question them. Get the task done and do it with proper respect. Salute officers, stand at parade rest for NCOs and respect everyone else in between and you will be a squared away individual when it comes to respect.