IT his foe that lureshim into evil ways.
IT ALL BEGINS WITH ATTITUDEfrom the seminarBREAKING THROUGH LIFE’S BOUNDARIES by Pat SpithillSeminar Leader * Author * Keynote Speaker(C) Copyright, 1989, Pat Spithill P.O. Box 505 * Hutchins, Texas 75141 214-225-8051 This material may not be reproduced or altered without writtenpermission of the author and copyright holder.
The Importance of AttitudeThe Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines the word “attitude” as “a mentalposition or feeling with regard to an object.” The mental positions orfeelings are our thoughts, beliefs and opinions. The object is life. In otherwords, attitudes encompass all of the thoughts, beliefs and opinions whichpeople have about their lives.Over 2500 years ago, Buddha said, “All that we are is the result of whatwe have thought; it is founded on our thoughts. If a man speaks or acts withpure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.”Buddha also said, “It is a man’s own mind – not his enemy or his foe that lureshim into evil ways.
” A person’s attitude, what Buddha was speaking of, is thevery foundation on which his or her life’s experience has been, is, and will bebuilt. Every part of reality is the result of a person’s attitudes. In simpleterms, our attitudes reflect what we expect from life. This shouldn’t beconfused with what we want, dream or hope for. No one wants to be unhappy,lead a boring life or look back over the years with remorse and regret. Yet,so often rather than expecting the best life has to offer, people expect muchthe opposite.
They expect problems and get problems; expect disappointmentsand are disappointed; expect to fail and then, rather than experience thedesired success, they fail.If attitudes are the mental expectations about jobs, relationships,financial status and so on, then these very powerful thoughts must be theelements which set the course for our lives and destiny. It isn’t life’scircumstances which create the attitudes; it’s the attitudes which createlife’s circumstances.
When people change their expectations and attitudes,then their lives must surely change as well.I know a gentleman who, in the late 1960’s, worked as a repossessor oflogging trucks. If you will, create a mental image of a person who walks up toburly truck drivers and says, “I have to either have a payment or the keys,whichever you want.” I would picture someone about 6’3″ and 220 pounds ofsolid muscle.
As it happens, Jim Cathcart is 5’9″, rather slender and not themuscular type. People who repossess cars, foreclose homes, or work forcollection agencies tend to be negative thinkers. However, one day Jim heard aradio program with a message about the power of positive expectations.
Hechanged his attitudes and began planning for and expecting an exciting successfilled future. Today, Jim Cathcart is an internationally recognized leader inthe field of sales and management seminars and consulting. Jim has writteneight books, is the co-author of Relationship Strategies, an all time topselling audio cassette program from Nightingale-Conant, and is one of thehighest paid professionals in his business. And all because he expected tosucceed, he expected the best life could provide.This article about building the foundation for your life on the concreteblocks of a positive attitude will cover four things: the source of attitudes;the difference between directive attitudes and reactive attitudes, how the wordHALT can help you maintain and strengthen positive attitudes, and specificskills and techniques for building expectations for a wonderful and excitinglife.
Attitudes – Directive or ReactiveMost people fail to ever consciously take control of their lives, livingat the mercy of the prevailing winds of fate. Their attitudes are reactive innature rather than directive. These people constantly respond to changingconditions rather than creating situations which suit their purposes.If you were to lose your job today, how would you react? What emotionswould you feel? Would you be angry, incensed, hurt, disappointed? Would yougo home, feel terrible and beat-up on yourself for hours on end? A little overa year ago, just before my wonderful wife Jan and I relocated to the Dallasarea from Denver, the company for which she worked went through what can onlybe called disastrous changes.
Over the course of four months, the firm laid-off 90% of its work force, approximately 85 people. Due to decreasingrevenues, it was obvious to everyone employed by this company that these lay-offs were going to take place and that nearly everyone would be affected. Theonly question was, in which lay-off series would a person finally lose his orher job. Very few people bothered to prepare for what was about to happen:yet, they knew it was coming. Most were shocked, upset and completely taken bysurprise.
Of the 85 people, only two prepared and lined up new jobs in advance,staying only long enough to collect their severance checks and move onto abrighter future. Four people hung on until the very end then, immediately wentout and found new opportunities. The vast majority, however, seemed to REACTin a pessimistic fashion; deciding to live off unemployment for a few weeks ormonths while displaying an attitude of “being laid-off has made my lifeterrible.” The lay-offs were not terrible, they just were. The circumstancesbecame terrible because these people believed the company controlled theirprofessional lives. Rather than taking firm control of the situation, theoverwhelming response was to do just that–respond and waste a considerableamount of energy complaining about the cards life had dealt them.
For theselect few, it was anything but terrible. One woman secured a direct marketingposition with a large exporter in Hong Kong. Others went to work for variouscompetitors or started their own companies. One person transferred to the headoffices in Dallas. Jan was that person. The situation was identical for everyperson involved.
The difference was found in how each dealt with the lifechange. The people who took control of the situation had directive attitudes.The people who believed they were at the mercy of this company had reactiveattitudes.As long as people let external forces create their thinking for them, theywill have little or no control over their lives. When we decide to take chargeof our beliefs, we take charge of our lives. Whether a person calls itpositive thinking, enthusiasm, or goal setting, it is nothing short of an “Iwill control my destiny and expect wonderful things from life” attitude.Thanks to Jan’s expectations, she was transferred to the company headquarterswith a substantial promotion.
In four short years, she rose from a common wordprocessor to head the firm’s microcomputer systems network. Why? Because thatis what she wanted and more important – expected.If you are ready to discover your own best attitudes, if you are ready tobegin directing your life by taking command of your thinking, then here is thefirst action step to help you do just that.Begin to look at your present attitudes and beliefs about life. Do youbelieve that you can accomplish anything you truly desire? Or, do you believethat you are subject to outside influences? Using Worksheet No.
1, write downyour beliefs about other people, co-workers, supervisors, and the significantpeople in your personal life. Consider and write down your feelings aboutsuccess and your ability to succeed, your attitudes toward money, your healthand physical well-being. In order to build a new attitude, it’s essential toknow what materials are currently in the foundation on which you will bebuilding. ATTITUDES WORKSHEET NO. 1In order for these ideas to work for you, it is necessary to be completelyhonest with yourself. The purpose of this worksheet is to help you determinewhere you are right now. Do your responses represent reactive or directiveattitudes?1.
What do you believe regarding your own potential for personalachievement? For example, how much can you accomplish if you set your mind toit?_______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________2.What are your beliefs concerning the influence of external forces? Do youbelieve that big business, the government or other people can hinder yourprogress? If so, to what extent?_______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________3.Describe your general feelings about supervisors and co-workers. Do youbelieve they appreciate your efforts? Are they jealous of your abilities? Areyou jealous of their abilities or positions?_______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________4.
Describe the feelings you have for the members of your family. How do youperceive your spouse? Do you see more faults now than before? How about yourchildren? What do you see in them? Do you believe you gain more joy from yourfamily or a sense of responsibility?____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________5.How do you feel about your job? Is it what you would choose if you couldchoose anything? When you are working, does it feel like toil or like play?____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________6.
Do you believe you have the ability to change your life? Explain youranswer.____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________7.If you were faced with being laid-off, knowing well in advance that it wascoming, what would you do? Would you direct or react to the circumstances inwhich you found yourself?____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________The Source of AttitudesA few nights ago, I watched two movies on cable television, THE NATURALand MY FAIR LADY. For some reason, I found myself emotionally drawn into bothof these movies and began to wonder what affected me so strongly.
It wasbecause the central characters, Roy Hobbs and Eliza Doolittle, expected toovercome what appeared to be impossible odds. For a short period of time andwith only one chance left, a man in his mid-30’s became what he was determinedto become – the greatest baseball player in history. Eliza Doolittle overcamethe limitations of her upbringing to rise from flower girl to courtesan.Why is it that so few people in this world have an attitude which says, “Ican and will succeed – I am going to reach my goals.” And, how is it that sofew people ever expect anything from life other than a job, a family, andeventual retirement? The answer to both of these questions is that ourattitudes are seldom our own.
They are usually learned from our parents,teachers and peers who learned their attitudes from their parents, teachers andpeers. We expect from life what we have learned to expect from life.There are also two ways in which attitudes can be developed rather thanlearned.
The more common of these is to form expectations based on intenselife changing situations. Perhaps the best example I can think of comes frommy friend Dottie Walters. Some years ago Dottie found herself in need of a jobin order to make ends meet. She began reading the classifieds and noticed thatthe local newspaper had a position open for an advertising salesrepresentative. As Dottie couldn’t afford a baby-sitter, she put her twodaughters in their stroller and headed for the office of the newspaper. Withdaughters in tow and total determination in her heart, she walked into theeditor’s office and literally demanded the job even though she had noexperience.
The editor, not sharing Dottie’s vision, did his best to dissuadeher. Finally, but without admitting defeat, he said, “Fine, you can go outthere and beat the streets if you want to. It’s straight commission.
When youdon’t sell anything, maybe then you’ll give up on this crazy idea.” With hertwo daughters still in the stroller, Dottie took the sales kit and startedknocking on doors. The rest is history.
Part of that history is that she soldmore advertising for this newspaper than had ever been sold to date. FromDottie Walters’ need was born determination, and from the determination – anattitude. The attitude was, “I can accomplish anything I set my mind to.
“Today, Dottie is a very successful business person, speaker, consultant andpublisher.Unfortunately, it is just as easy to develop negative attitudes as it isto develop positive attitudes. Sometimes, when people get hurt throughrelationships, they cease to risk being vulnerable. They hold back in order toavoid being hurt again. Their attitude is that the risk is too great. Peoplewho have failed at a business or career might settle into something lesssatisfying but more “steady.
” People who have invested and lost money in thestock market may decide to play it safe with a savings account.Dottie took a risk because, in her own mind, she had nothing to lose. Andshe won. But sometimes, people lose and rather than lose again, quit thegame. An expectation is developed of, “If I take risks, I am going to losemore than I can win.” Unfortunately, these people fail to recognize that it isimpossible to win the game if they’re not in the game.The third method for developing an attitude or life expectation is to makethe conscious decision to change how you think and feel.
Once the decision hasbeen made, it is impossible to ever go back. As Wayne Dyer, the author of thebest selling book The Erroneous Zones, puts it, “It’s like opening a door,walking through the door and having it slam shut behind you. There is no wayback once you’ve walked through.” Although, it takes time and effort to musterthe necessary belief to make great changes; those changes begin with adecision. Every person who has ever read Think and Grow Rich by Napolean Hill,The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz, The Power of Positive Thinking byNorman Vincent Peale or any of numerous success building books has made aconscious decision to change his or her attitudes and expectations of life.Once the decision is made, there can be no going back to the old ways.
Whenignored, the desire for personal success and happiness becomes a smallinfection in the heart which continues to tear away at any spirit of failurelittle-by-little until a person can no longer stand to be one of masses. He orshe must become unique, an inspiration unto herself or himself; seeking out andexperiencing fulfillment and satisfaction in every area of life, for withoutthese things – life loses its meaning.Return to the worksheet and write down how you acquired the attitudesrepresented in your responses. If these thoughts and feelings were learnedfrom other people, write down the names of the people. If from experiences,outline the experience briefly. If from conscious choice, try to recall andsummarize the events that prompted the change in attitude.What You Expect Is What You GetRecently I heard an acquaintance say, “Just when I didn’t think thingscould get any worse, one more thing went wrong.
I really didn’t think anythingelse could happen.” My observation would be that a great many things couldstill “go wrong.” This person wasn’t expecting anything different. He wascontent hoping nothing would happen.
As he was not expecting changes for thebetter, his attitudes produced nothing but changes for the worse. Conversely,Jim Cathcart and Dottie Walters both decided to expect the best.Most of the attitudes which we have about life, relationships, careers andmoney have been with us for many years.
In fact, thinking about changingattitudes and doing it are two very different things. The minute a personattempts to alter this mental and emotional foundation, he or she willexperience what psychologists call “cognitive dissonance.” When people believecertain conditions are “the way life is,” to begin believing otherwise createsuncomfortable feelings. For most, the initial response is one of, “I can’t.Life just doesn’t work this way. People are where they are for a reason.
” Inshort, people begin to rationalize that changing attitudes and life isimpossible or not meant to be.It is meant to be. You are meant to have everything which life has tooffer.
If you didn’t believe that, you wouldn’t be reading this. Once youbelieve you can improve self-esteem, you can. Once you believe you can controlyour money, you can. Once you believe you can reach your goals, you can. Butwithout an “I can” attitude first, none of this is possible.As an analogy, in order to build the foundation of a house, it isnecessary to have a design, the right tools and materials.
Who is thearchitect of your new attitudes? You are, and it’s time to design a lifefoundation to your unique specifications.All of us experience life in many different ways not just financially orin terms of a career. We experience physical health, relationships andfamilies, mental development, and spiritual beliefs.
Each of these things hasan influence over how we perceive life. Worksheet No. 1 covered where you arenow. Worksheet No. 2 will be your design for everyday from this pointforward.
Creating new attitudes can be likened to a high jump bar. For thesenew expectations to become part of you, it is important that the sights notinitially be set too low or too high. It’s important to believe in the newattitudes and to believe in their realization. This helps reduce the cognitivedissonance. Once strong expectations become a way of life, you can raise thebar again and again. ATTITUDES WORKSHEET NO.
2As you answer each of the questions below, stop for a few moments and doyour best to picture your thoughts. Make sure that you can see theseconditions or situations as real.1.Mental Development: A person can become educated in different ways,through reading books, taking correspondence courses, traditional collegeclasses, listening to audio cassette tapes and so on.”I would feel as if I were knowledgeable if I knew the following things:”____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________2.Spiritual Belief: What a person believes about the nature of theuniverse, God and religion is subjective.
Above all else, it should besomething in which you have faith.”I would believe myself to be a spiritual person if I. . .
“____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________3.Physical Health: Whenever people are concerned about their physical well-being, it is difficult to support positive attitudes in other areas.”I would believe I was healthy if. . .”____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________4.
Families and Relationships:”I would believe my family or relationships were nearly perfect if. . .
“____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________5.Career: Without thinking of a specific job title, concentrate on workrelated tasks which give you personal satisfaction. For me, some of theelements are communicating both in the written and vocal genres, using acomputer in my work, sharing ideas for better living, marketing, andcreativity.”The perfect work situation for me would include. . .
“____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________6.Finances: This is perhaps the most difficult area in which to change anattitude. There are two distinct sides to this, the amount you earn and theamount you spend.
And both sides must be represented in your attitude.”I believe I can earn $__________ per year/month/week. With thoseearnings, I could do the following:”____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________You now have a blueprint for your new attitudes, and know what you wouldlike to think and feel about life. Concrete and cement are the materials of abuilding’s foundation, the material for turning these ideas into attitudes isthe mind.The tools you use are up to you. To continue with the analogy of thebuilding, to pour the cement, you could use a portable cement mixer, bring in acement truck, or both. The truck to fill the forms; the portable mixer andwheelbarrow for detail work.
The tools you use here will determine how fastand how well the job can be done. Use the tools which work best for you, asmany as you can. And, if you think of techniques other than those suggested,then by all means adapt them. By the way, any poor expectations should startto fade as positive, optimistic attitudes begin to take shape and form.
Ever since Think and Grow Rich was published, constructive self-talk(affirmation) and creative imagery (visualization) have been recommended forhelping people to experience a new sense of possibility in themselves.Unfortunately, there are people and organizations who have made these exercisesinto more than mere tools for self-expression, personal growth and realization,as if they were magic wands for changing our lives and the lives of others.The truth is that creative imagery and constructive self-talk are nothing morethan a statement like, “I can see myself. . .
” When using creative imagery,people begin to deliberately design pictures of where they want life to takethem, and then view those pictures at specific times when the mind isreceptive. To use this method for building new attitudes, mentally picturesequences of events which support what you will gain from expecting the best.Perhaps you can see your family enjoying more quality time together byimagining various activities which everyone would enjoy. Maybe you can see co-workers acting in concert rather than as individuals, working together as ateam.
Possibly, you may see yourself with 10% more money than you’ve ever hadbefore, with a new car, home, or furniture, taking a fun-filled vacation, orstarting your own business.The next step to using creative imagery involves the right environment.Although many people recommend imaging first thing in the morning or rightbefore falling asleep, I’ve found that anytime of day will work provided thereare no interruptions.
My preference is during working hours whenever I need abreak or in the evenings while relaxing. The time is not as important as thesetting.As well, by speaking pre-determined positive thoughts over and over, aperson can make these powerful ideas a part of her or his everyday thinking.This is called constructive self-talk. The thoughts can be one or twosentences long or entire paragraphs. The choice is yours.
The thoughts shouldsay things which are relevant to your new attitudes.If you would like to improve the levels of communication at work, “I am able tocommunicate with everyone effectively,” would be good. If you would like toimprove your personal relationships, “I see __the person’s name__ as I sawhim/her when we were first dating and feel those same attractions again.” Ifyou would like to improve your health, “I am doing the things necessary to livea healthy and happy life.
” These three examples are brief statements which,when read twice each day, will begin to take hold in your mind, creatingchanges in your behavior. I recommend taping your self-talk statements to thebathroom mirror and reading them aloud as you’re getting ready for work in themorning and again while preparing to retire at night. Two excellent books oncreative imagery and constructive self-talk are, In The Mind’s Eye by ArnoldLazarus, Ph.D.
and You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L. Hay.A third method for reinforcing positive expectations is by continuallyexposing yourself to positive ideas through audio cassette tape programs.There are numerous publishers of single audio cassette tapes and full length 6to 18 tape programs: Nightingale-Conant, Sybervision, and many others. Mypersonal choice is Nightingale-Conant. Their catalog is very extensive (over100 titles) with a wide range of topics. The price of most 6-tape programs is$55. One way to get extra value from your investment is to form a group ofthree to five people. Each member of the group invests in a new program everytwo or three months. Then, share the programs with each other. A terrificgroup exercise is to talk about what you each learned from a program orcassette tape and how you can apply the ideas. This can be a great source ofgood ideas and practical feedback. In any event, the idea is to listen tosomething positive almost everyday for 30 to 60 minutes.A fourth way to build a more hopeful outlook on life is through”association”. By associating with people who are doing what you want to do,you begin to develop new expectations from the attitudes of others. Becomeacquainted with people who are successful, who earn the kind of money youbelieve you can and should earn. As a member of Toastmasters International, Iassociate with people whose common goal is to develop the ability to speak inpublic. As a member of the National Speakers Association, I spend time withother professional speakers further developing my marketing and presentationskills. The use of this tool must be a two-way street. It’s not just a matterof sitting and taking things in, we have to contribute as well. As is alwaysthe case, we can only get out of something what we put into something.The fifth tool is choosing a role model, a person you would like toemulate. Should you decide to use this particular method, select your rolemodel with care and only after a great deal of consideration. Make very surethe person is someone you respect in many ways; a leader in his or herprofession, a person of good character, someone respected and admired byothers. In essence, it should be someone that you can look up to and say, “Iwould like to be just like. . .” This provides a very concrete picture of whoyou would like to become.The final tool. . . HALT! There are five things represented by the wordHALT which can cause setbacks in building and maintaining positiveexpectations. The letters stand for the words: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, andTired. Whenever a person becomes too hungry, too angry, too lonely or tootired, positive attitudes begin to deteriorate. The fifth thing is alsorepresented by the “H”. It is the word harassed. Remember that you can choosehow to react to harassment and problems. It may be difficult but try to thinkthrough the situation rather than emotionalize about it. By thinking your waythrough it, the situation won’t seem quite so overwhelming. In a latersection, I will cover the skills of problem solving. The key is found inthinking through a problem rather than getting wrapped up in the feelings andemotional responses. For now, anytime you feel your new attitudes slipping,ask yourself, “Am I too hungry, too angry, too lonely, too tired or feelingharassed?” The answer more often than not will be yes. And for some reason,once you know the answer, things begin to return to normal. Breaking Through The Attitude BoundaryThe design is ready, the tools have been selected, and the material is inplace. All that is left is the labor. Realize that building these newattitudes can take a few weeks or more depending on how high the sights areset, how well ingrained the current beliefs are, and how often you’re willingto practice. The more you practice and ignore that little inner voice whichsays, “It’s not going to work,” the more quickly the changes will take place.To help you begin this amazing journey, here is one final worksheet. Touse this action step, choose one new or different expectation for each area ofyour life, something you can begin to believe and feel right now, today. Theintention is to provide you with a starting point, a tangible beginning. It’simportant for you to succeed at this. Be certain that these first choices arebelievable because this will form the first layer of concrete in your attitudefoundation. ATTITUDES WORKSHEET NO. 3Before completing the following sentences, think of one small change youcould make in terms of your expectations in each area of your life.1.Mental Development:One thing I would like to begin to learn to do is. . .____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________2.Spiritual Belief:In terms of my spiritual life, I would like to experience more. . .____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________3.Physical Health:To improve my physical well-being, I can. . .____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________4.Families and Relationships:As a family or couple, one thing which would bring us closer together is:____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________5.Career:In my job, I can expect. . .____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________6.Finances:To feel as if I have more control over my finances, I will. . .____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Here are some ideas for completing these sentences. Knowledge truly ispower. Learning new things, however, should never be boring. When people wantto learn something new, as opposed to being forced to learn something new, thelearning process tends to feel more like play than work. Think of somethingwhich you would like to learn about or study over the next 30 days. It mayinvolve nothing more than investing a little money and time in a book or audiocassette tape and studying the material for four weeks. At the end of thattime, you will have learned something new. That is only the beginning.As mentioned, spiritual expression is a very personal thing. If youattend church regularly, one way to further develop yourself spiritually is tobegin to apply the message in each Sunday’s sermon directly to yourexperiences. Or, you might choose to read a book on various spiritual beliefsor philosophies, one section at a time, making notes about how the ideas canwork for you.To improve your physical health, perhaps you could begin walking everyother day or modify your diet. Or, you could begin to appreciate your bodymore by spending 15 seconds in front of the mirror saying, “I like how I look,”(whether you believe it right now or not). You may find your health, weight,nearly everything responding in very positive ways.Families and relationships are an essential part of our lives. Taking alittle time out of each week to be together as a family or couple, spendingquality time with each other, helps generate positive feelings, healthycommunication and enjoyable experiences. Perhaps you could take in a movie, goout to dinner, or get a baby-sitter and after a luxurious meal, stay overnightin a hotel. The possibilities are nearly endless. Most of all, begin toappreciate and be grateful for the significant people in your life. You can dothis by remembering how you felt when you and your spouse were dating, how youfelt the day your child was born, how you felt when your family attended yourhigh school graduation or other significant moments in your life.All too often, a job becomes nothing more than a way to keep the billspaid. Yet, you must have had some reason for choosing that particular line ofwork. By focusing on the tasks you enjoy, and developing methods for furtherdeveloping those tasks, a job can quickly become more of a career and less of agrind. If you would like to build a new career, then begin exploring the stepswhich lead to making a move in the right direction.A person can take charge of his or her money with some practical effort.A later section concentrates solely on finances. The key is a written-downbudget. Without a budget, a financial plan, your money is controlling you.Once you know where the money is going and begin to decide where and how itwill go, you take control of it.Building The FoundationEverything else in the Breaking Through Life’s Boundaries program is basedon “Attitude.” Some of the other steps include Beliefs, The Three Selves (SelfImage, Self Concept, Self Esteem), Personal Relationships, Solving Life’sProblems, Personal Finances and much more. With an “I can change my life”attitude, it is possible to alter the belief system, improve self-esteem, orbegin to solve the challenges which confront us.Our lives are very much like building a house. We were each given a lot,a piece of property, at birth. How well we take care of that lot (thephysical, mental and emotional being) will affect the value of the property -our lives. Good landscaping, keeping the lawn watered and mowed, putting incolorful flower beds, green shrubs and trees all enhance the value of theproperty. Eating well, exercise and regular check-ups maintain the physicalbody. Filling our lives with people who love and support us maintains andstrengthens us emotionally. Being selective about what we watch on TV, what weread, what we listen to, supports the mental self. These things have a greatdeal to do with the value of our lives.The strength and design of the foundation, attitudes, and expectations,may well determine how well and how long the house stands. Therefore, buildyour attitudes with ideas that support a successful and valuable life for theall the rest of your days.